Date rape in Kenyan campuses

Joan, a student at Moi University, was date raped by a company boss while looking for internship Photo: Courtesy

Remmy is a third-year university student who still recalls in horror how she was raped on her first date. That was six months ago.

The 22-year-old met her date online. Everything looked promising.

“We met on Facebook after he liked my status and he began hitting my inbox. He portrayed the image of a man I would have loved to date,” narrates Remmy, adding that the dude never asked for nudes or sex and hardly appeared in a hurry to meet her.

In fact, they exchanged contacts after four months of online chatting which turned into phone calls and text messages. Then he asked for a date.

“He said he was a businessman who had taken much time studying and establishing his business and that was why he had not settled down. His profile said he was UK educated and was in the mining business,” recounts Remmy who was picked from college that Saturday when date rape was on the guy’s ‘to do list’.

The ride to an out-of-town five-star hotel was in a fuel guzzler. He promised to drive her back before 10pm. That was never to be.

Remmy began feeling dizzy on her second glass of wine. She asked a waiter for water and “I remember him asking whether I would like to lie down for a while when I told him I was feeling dizzy”.

Remmy had felt so comfortable around him. He looked like he desired to have an affair with her but “I am convinced he drugged my wine when I made one of those numerous trips to the washrooms.”

Remmy woke up the following day at noon “stark naked in a room and with a shattering migraine”.

After asking from hotel attendants how she ended up in the room she was told that her date had booked the room in advance and they did not suspect anything even as she left at midnight after which “his phone was switched off and he deactivated his Facebook account. I have not seen or heard from him.”

Although she tested HIV-negative, Remmy is still traumatised from the date rape, also called ‘acquaintance rape’ which is non-consensual sex with someone who’s either unconscious or asleep.

Evans Makau a pirated DVD film trader says “Saa zingine inabidi,” arguing that some women ‘eat’ a dude’s money but refuse to pay in kind, issuing excuses instead. Makau admits to adding whiskey to his date’s lager and sleeping with her when she became too tipsy.

Although there are no clear statistics about date rape in Kenya, a study in the US revealed that date rape was common among students aged between 16 and 24, and that 74 per cent of attackers and 55 per cent of victims were drinking alcohol before the date rapes, with the majority of victims being female college students.

In Kenya, victims rarely report date rape due to stigma besides having been socially close to the perpetrators. Indeed, the offices of the dean of students in the majority of Kenyan universities hardly ever receive date rape cases. Kisii University has had only nine cases of date rape this year.

A number of campus victims told The Nairobian that the rapists often used false promises to lure victims.

Joan, a student at Moi University, was date raped by a company boss while looking for internship.

Being drugged is another method used during social trips, weekend dates and parties that are full of alcoholic and non-alcoholic drinks, which perpetrators contaminate using substances like Rohypnol, Benzodiazepine and Scopolamine.

Then there are areas one is likely to be raped like campus hostels and apartments outside campuses.


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