He has cheated on me three times but I still love him, should I say yes?

Should I say yes?

He always cheats but I still love and want to marry him

I am a 33-year-old woman in a relationship with a 30-year-old man. We have been together for two years. During the course of our relationship he cheated on me three times. He always says he loves me and other than the cheating, he is a very good boyfriend and treats me well.

He recently asked me to marry him and I don’t know what to do. I am getting old and I would love to settle down but I know he will never change and will probably continue cheating after we are married. Should I just accept that that is who he is and marry him? Vivian, Kisumu

Dear Vivian,

Absolutely not! You should have broken up with him the moment you discovered he was a cheater. Treating you well doesn’t make up for the fact that he is a cheater. Don’t let your desperation to get married cloud your judgment. You can do better.

My boyfriend is moody and sulks, how do I handle him?

My boyfriend of six months has anger issues and gets upsets over little things. He is not physically abusive but he sulks when he is angry, even when I am not the one who has upset him.

When has a bad day at work, he will come home in a bad mood and ignore me. He snaps at me when I try to reach out to him when he is in his mood. How do I deal with this? Julie, Malindi
 

Dear Julie,

You shouldn’t have to deal with his mood swings. Dump the bugger immediately! Just because he doesn’t hit you doesn’t mean he is not abusive. This is emotional abuse. We all get frustrated with life, but we don’t take it out on our partners.

She is addicted to chatting, texting, I can’t stand it, help

I have been with my girlfriend for one year and we are always fighting about how much time she spends on her phone texting. She tells me she is texting her girlfriends, but I have my doubts.

A few days ago I found her texting and I asked her to show me the text conversation but she refused. I told her that if she had nothing to hide, she would not have a problem with me looking at her texts but she still would not show me the texts. What should I do? Andrew, Kitale
Dear Andrew,

Being her boyfriend doesn’t give you the right to go through her text messages and read her private conversations or question her about who she talks to. If you don’t trust her and you think she is cheating on you, break up with her.

 Ex boyfriend’s girlfriend is spoiling for a fight with me

My ex boyfriend’s girlfriend and I have never gotten along. I have kids with my ex, so we talk regularly. I have a lot of mutual friends with them and they tell me all the horrible things she says about me.

 I have never given her any reason to dislike me yet she trash talks me every chance she gets. I have tried to be the bigger person and let it go but it is becoming very difficult. Should I confront her? Lynette, Nairobi

Dear Lynette,

Don’t engage her. It will only make things worse. Tell your friends that you don’t want to hear what she says about you ever again. You can’t make her stop talking about you. Just try to avoid her and ignore her when you run into each other.


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