Help! Most men I meet just want sex then disappear

I don’t know why I keep attracting such men

Help! Most men I meet just want to use and dump me

I’m a lady in my mid-twenties. In the past I have gone out with guys who were only interested in sex. I don’t know why I keep attracting such men.

As soon as I sleep with them they disappear. I have recently started seeing a new guy that I really like and I am feeling really nervous about having sex with him, but I’m confused because the itch to do so is overwhelming. Christie, Yala

Dear Christie,

You need to reflect on your past relationships and try and figure out what attracts you to these men and try to avoid that in future.

Do you think you jump into bed too soon? Have a serious talk with your current boyfriend about what he’s looking for in a relationship and if he doesn’t have the same expectations as you, let him go.

Found out my guy is flirting with a girl via sms

Hi, I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost two years. I recently found a text conversation between him and another woman where he was declaring his love for her.

 In the conversation, the woman was telling him that she does not believe he loves her because he never replies to her texts and he doesn’t accept her calls.

 I am really confused and I don’t know what to make of these texts. Should I call it quits? Lydia, Eldoret

Dear Lydia,

Not really. Hang in there. It is a common thing with most men. They are always in constant conversation with random women, looking for hit and run prospects.

Ever wondered why they get sensitive when a woman asks to use their phones? But if you have been with him for over two years, you could be his official one.

I’m attracted to classmate but afraid of telling him

Hi, I am a 23-year-old lady in college and I have a huge crush on this guy in my school. We have never interacted and we have no mutual friends, but I have caught him staring at me a few times.

 So I think the attraction is mutual. I first noticed him a few months ago and I want to introduce myself but I don’t know how to go about it.

I have been hoping that one day he will come over and say hi but he hasn’t made a move. Should I reach out to him and ask him out? Kate, Nairobi

Dear Kate,

Of course! This is the 21st century. You have nothing to lose. Go for it. Next time you see him, take the chance and introduce yourself and ask him if he wants to grab a cup of coffee sometime.

All the best.

My live-in mother-in-law is driving me up the wall

I am a 22-year-old lady with a new-born baby. After I got pregnant I moved in with my boyfriend and his parents because my parents kicked me out.

 My mother-in-law criticizes my parenting every chance she gets. She is always watching over my shoulder ready to point out my mistakes.

I feel depressed and overwhelmed and I need her to back off. What do I do? Charity, Mombasa

Dear Charity,

She needs respects your boundaries as a parent. You should be able to make your own decisions and your own mistakes.

Let her know that you appreciate her guidance, but that you have to do your own thing. 

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